Movember is a health initiative raising awareness of men’s health issues including suicide, prostate cancer and testicular cancer.
Movember provides helpful information on what to do if you are worried about a bro (or anyone for that matter). Remember, your rural doctor is always there for advice or simply as a listening ear.
Start by mentioning anything different you’ve noticed. Maybe he’s spending more time at the bar, coming into work late, or missing social events.
“You’ve not quite seemed yourself recently. Are you okay?”
Trust your instinct. Remember, we often say “I’m fine” when we’re not. So, if you think something’s wrong, don’t be afraid to ask twice.
Try to give him your full attention, without interruptions. Don’t feel you have to diagnose problems, offer solutions or give advice. Just let him know you’re all ears, judgement-free.
Follow-up questions are good, too. They’ll help let him know you’re listening:
“That can’t be easy. How long have you felt that way?“
Help him to focus on simple things that might improve his wellbeing. Is he getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and eating properly? Maybe there’s something that’s helped before?
Suggest he tells other people he trusts how he’s feeling. This will make things easier – for both of you. And if he’s felt low for more than two weeks, suggest he sees his doctor.
Suggest you catch up soon – in person if you can. If you can’t manage a meet-up, make time for a call, or drop him a message. This will show you care. Plus, you’ll get a feel for whether he’s feeling any better.
If you’re worried somebody’s life is in immediate danger, go directly to emergency services.